Intimacy, Cancer, and Your Wellbeing
Intimacy is an important part of being human. However, cancer and its treatment can sometimes change how we feel about our bodies and our relationships.
These changes can be physical, such as differences in appearance after surgery (for example, to the breast or other areas of the body). Some people may also have a stoma, which can lead to feelings of embarrassment or worry about intimacy. Treatments can also affect how the body functions, including sexual desire or arousal. This can happen after procedures like prostate surgery, gynaecological surgery, or as a result of hormonal therapies.
While these changes can feel significant, it’s important to know that intimacy and a fulfilling sexual relationship are still possible.
Talking About Changes
Open communication is one of the most helpful steps. Talking with your partner about what has changed—both physically and emotionally—can help avoid misunderstandings and strengthen your connection.
Try to have these conversations at a time when you both feel calm and not rushed, rather than in the bedroom or at stressful moments. It’s also important to listen to how your partner is feeling.
If you ever feel overwhelmed or unsure where to start, support is available. You can contact the Cancer Council Australia on 13 11 20 for confidential guidance and support.
Redefining Intimacy
Intimacy is about much more than sexual intercourse. There are many ways to feel close and connected, including:
- Cuddling, hugging, and holding hands
- Kissing or lying together
- Giving or receiving a massage
When it comes to sexual activity, some couples find it helpful to explore different ways of being intimate at their own pace. This might include trying different positions, focusing on touch and sensation, or using personal lubricants or other aids if needed. The most important thing is finding what feels comfortable and right for both of you.
Connection Beyond Physical Intimacy
Spending quality time together is also a meaningful part of intimacy. This could include:
- Going for walks together
- Sharing hobbies or activities
- Practising relaxation or mindfulness
- Simply enjoying each other’s company
Looking After Your Health
Your overall wellbeing can also support intimacy and sexual health.
- Exercise can improve circulation, energy levels, and hormone balance
- Pelvic floor exercises can help strengthen muscles involved in sexual function
- Good nutrition supports overall health and hormone regulation
Services such as exercise physiology and dietetics are available through Bloomhill to support you in these areas.
Further Support
If you would like more specialised support, a psychosexual therapist such as Simone Grace can provide guidance tailored to your situation. Simone’s information and contact details are available in the newsletter and at our Wellness Centre
References
Cancer Council. (2025). Sexuality and intimacy. https://www.cancer.org.au/cancer-information/cancer-side-effects/sexuality-and-intimacy
Simone Grace. Psychosocial Therapist: Phone: 0406 010 156; Email: [email protected]; Website: https://www.pulsesexology.com.au
Please contact our Nurses on 07 5445 5794 or [email protected] if you have any questions.
All information provided by Bloomhill is mainly based on research from the Qld Cancer Council and best practice guidelines. Our model of care utilizes the Clinical Oncology Society of Australia (COSA) domains of wellness along with available clinical evidence. Always consult your care team regarding matters that affect your health. This is a guide intended for information only.
